Handling Rejection With New Earth Style

Hey Visionaries, I just crashed and burned.

I asked somebody out and crashed and burned. This happens.

I can't fault the person who I asked. She's a lovely person.

And yes, I am bisexual.

As the joke goes, you get double the options, but also double the chances of rejection! 😂️

But she was very, very gracious and lovely, and I can see why I was attracted to her and wanted to ask her out.

I have excellent taste! 😁️

Now let's talk about how to handle these rejections.

If you're looking for love and you're putting yourself out there, you're going to have this happen.

Or not... perhaps you get to skip that experience in this lifetime.

But for the rest of us, psychology says any kind of rejection is felt like an injury.

This comes from vast conditioning throughout human evolution.

If we were rejected from the tribe, it meant life or death to us.

So being rejected was something we'd do anything to avoid.

When we're rejected, those deep-seated feelings can bubble up in us.

This can lead to thoughts that seek to defend and repair our ego.

Things like, "Well, they don't know what they're missing!" or worse.

These thoughts can cast the very person we admire in a negative light.

Or we might feel undesirable.

My first thought when I was rejected was, "What's wrong with me?"

And I had a little cry.

Then I told myself, "No Ana, there's nothing wrong with you."

To be fair, it's been a couple of decades since I've had to ask anybody out.

I had to remember something I knew about rejection back then.

THE OTHER PERSON SEES SOMETHING AS AN INCOMPATIBILITY THAT YOU JUST HAVEN'T SEEN YET.

You would absolutely eventually see it.

They just saved you the time and energy and potential pain of figuring it out.

It's much harder when you realize the incompatibility after you're already in a relationship with someone.

So if you can reframe it to where you are grateful they saw the incompatibility and saved you potential heartache, then you'll feel a lot better about the rejection.

In essence, it wasn't a rejection - it was an acknowledgment that the pairing wasn't fully resonant.

You would have eventually felt it if you had moved forward with the relationship.

They just happened to feel it first.

But then please, go and put yourself out there again!

You deserve to be with somebody you love, where you are compatible and can have a good relationship.

If that's what you're indeed looking for.

Some people aren't, and that's great.

We all go towards what we need in life to help us grow our soul light.

That's why it's important to have relationships where you open your heart.

Whether that be with your family, friends, furries, finnies, featheries, or romantically - any relationship where you're sharing and expressing love.

Love makes your soul light grow and is the most important experience in this world.

If you choose to have a romantic relationship, it will make your soul light grow in a different way than other relationships.

For example, the experience of family typically goes beyond choice.

Even if you choose to leave your family and never see them again, they still will be 'your family'.

You still had formative years and experiences with them before you were able to make that choice.

We can have incredibly deep connections with friends and pets, which are very steadying, calming, supportive, and fun.

Not to say there can't be issues, but in good relationships, that is where the predominant energy signature lies.

Yet there isn't the magnetic charge one experiences in a romantic relationship.

And I'm not just talking about 'chemistry'.

There is a magnetic push-pull in the choice of that kind relationship - you choosing them, and them choosing you - again and again.

A partner is typically in your life daily, they see the best and worst in you.

You metaphorically let your hair down around them.

Energetically there really isn't any other choice - it would be too difficult to do otherwise.

This leaves you open and bare to them.

It is in this point between the push-pull of choice, and being open and bare, where you can touch the other person's heart.

And if you can do this fully - fully choose, fully open, fully touch - then you can merge souls for a dilated moment of spacetime.

I've had this happen only twice in my lifetime so far. I dearly hope it happens again, because it was a transcendental experience.

Each time, we were out in public, holding each other and looking deeply into each other's eyes.

Then it was as if a bubble formed around us, and everything slowed down outside it.

The merging of our souls had created that bubble.

On this side of the veil, you can only partially merge souls. On the other side of the veil, you can fully merge.

There are souls who can remember what it felt like to fully merge - and they desire that experience while on earth.

I realize I am one of those souls.

I did have an experience where I fully merged with a soul.

I woke up from sleep and I had merged with somebody on the other side.

I couldn't figure out who it was, but I must have known them to share that intimate of an experience.

It was the most amazing feeling!

Like having a deep orgasm while eating your favorite food while feeling like you're flying and so full of energy and joy and love.

That description still doesn't do it justice.

If I never again get to experience the feeling of merging while I'm on this earthly plane, I'm grateful for the times I did.

And know you can have some beautiful and life-altering experiences when you open yourself to love - any kind of love.

Love is what grows your soul.

So put yourself out there and don't give up, even if you go down in flames like I did.

Know it was just a frequency mismatch, and keep showing the universe you are ready, willing, and able to welcome love into your life.

With love and light,

Ana Kay